Texting vs Calling for a Date
Présentation
Is Chivalry Dead or Perhaps Just Redefined?
My Kindle Is Apparently a Dating Device
Turning Inner Geek into Geek Chic
Handling Hurt Feelings in Dating
How to Resolve Multilingual Dating
Internet Dating – Sadly. I’m A Bit Of An Expert
The Four Horsemen of a Relationship Apocalypse
Expectations: The Death of Love
How to Quit Mr. Wrong (Even If He’s Good in Bed)
I recently met a woman on craigslist. I know, I know, I’ve long said that online dating sucks. (It does.) But craigslist dating is different. The focus is on the event or experience, rather than making sure checkboxes align. I.e. instead of looking for a soul mate, you simply look for a fun date.
She was a single mom in my area, cute and athletic. I’m a single dad, smart and fit. She insisted she’d rather meet than chat forever. Fine with me! I’d love a sexy and fun date with her. But I wanted to at least talk on the phone first. I gave her my cell number, she called me, and we had great flirty chemistry.
“When are you free?” I asked.
“Not until next week,” she said.
We worked through our custody schedules and found a Thursday night that worked for both of us, and penciled each other in.
Now then – why not make actual plans on this first phone call? It’s a gut check, really. You hang up, think about it for a day or a weekend, and if you still have the urge and gumption to meet, you follow through.
The weekend came and went. I had my kids, and was busy as hell. It never entered my mind that I should call her. Come Monday, I realized we probably should have made plans already. I’m guessing there’s a dating rule that says “Don’t go out on Thursday night unless he calls the weekend before.” (Not that I care about rules, but some people do.)
I called and got voicemail. No problem, I left a message. Hi, how was your weekend, look forward to Thursday, give me a call, let’s make a plan, etc.
I didn’t hear back until the next night. She sent me a text that was somewhat vague: sure, let’s meet Thursday.
I texted right back and suggested a bar where we could meet for a late evening drink.
A few hours later (WTF! I just texted her. It takes her hours to respond?), she texted me back with her own suggestion to meet at the bar of an expensive restaurant in the early evening.
Sounds like she wants dinner, not drinks.
Truth be told, I’m now feeling nervous about the whole thing. This woman told me she got over 100 responses to her ad. She has no shortage of suitors. That she is texting me, and taking her sweet time between communications, and suggesting such an expensive place, makes me think she’s just fishing around for her best option. It wouldn’t be the first time a woman turned a simple craigslist meet and greet into an expensive meal.
And that’s the thing. This is a different woman. Maybe she really just likes the drinks at that place. Who knows? If she’d sent sexy texts, at least I’d know her intent.
Oh, how I pine for a rotary phone on my kitchen counter! No voicemail. No texting. Just conversation.
In the meantime, all I have to go on is my gut. And the advice of my readers…
My Kindle Is Apparently a Dating Device
Turning Inner Geek into Geek Chic
Handling Hurt Feelings in Dating
How to Resolve Multilingual Dating
Internet Dating – Sadly. I’m A Bit Of An Expert
The Four Horsemen of a Relationship Apocalypse
Expectations: The Death of Love
How to Quit Mr. Wrong (Even If He’s Good in Bed)
I recently met a woman on craigslist. I know, I know, I’ve long said that online dating sucks. (It does.) But craigslist dating is different. The focus is on the event or experience, rather than making sure checkboxes align. I.e. instead of looking for a soul mate, you simply look for a fun date.
She was a single mom in my area, cute and athletic. I’m a single dad, smart and fit. She insisted she’d rather meet than chat forever. Fine with me! I’d love a sexy and fun date with her. But I wanted to at least talk on the phone first. I gave her my cell number, she called me, and we had great flirty chemistry.
“When are you free?” I asked.
“Not until next week,” she said.
We worked through our custody schedules and found a Thursday night that worked for both of us, and penciled each other in.
Now then – why not make actual plans on this first phone call? It’s a gut check, really. You hang up, think about it for a day or a weekend, and if you still have the urge and gumption to meet, you follow through.
The weekend came and went. I had my kids, and was busy as hell. It never entered my mind that I should call her. Come Monday, I realized we probably should have made plans already. I’m guessing there’s a dating rule that says “Don’t go out on Thursday night unless he calls the weekend before.” (Not that I care about rules, but some people do.)
I called and got voicemail. No problem, I left a message. Hi, how was your weekend, look forward to Thursday, give me a call, let’s make a plan, etc.
I didn’t hear back until the next night. She sent me a text that was somewhat vague: sure, let’s meet Thursday.
I texted right back and suggested a bar where we could meet for a late evening drink.
A few hours later (WTF! I just texted her. It takes her hours to respond?), she texted me back with her own suggestion to meet at the bar of an expensive restaurant in the early evening.
Sounds like she wants dinner, not drinks.
Truth be told, I’m now feeling nervous about the whole thing. This woman told me she got over 100 responses to her ad. She has no shortage of suitors. That she is texting me, and taking her sweet time between communications, and suggesting such an expensive place, makes me think she’s just fishing around for her best option. It wouldn’t be the first time a woman turned a simple craigslist meet and greet into an expensive meal.
And that’s the thing. This is a different woman. Maybe she really just likes the drinks at that place. Who knows? If she’d sent sexy texts, at least I’d know her intent.
Oh, how I pine for a rotary phone on my kitchen counter! No voicemail. No texting. Just conversation.
In the meantime, all I have to go on is my gut. And the advice of my readers…
Date de l'évènement
19.05.2023
Date de l'évènement
20.05.2023